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Being About Your Business: Are You Looking For Advice Or Approval?

 

Are You Looking For Advice or Approval?

So many times when we’re stuck in the middle of making a decision, or moving forward in our businesses,
we go to our friends and family for advice.

What do they think?

Are You Looking For Business Advice...Or Approval?

Looking For Biz Advice...Or Approval?

If they were in our shoes, what would they do?

We think we’re being prudent in asking for advice, but are we really?

So many times we tell ourselves we’re asking for advice when we’re really wanting approval.

There is a difference.

Advice is information you seek out about something you’re considering doing from someone who’s done it before you.
They literally have a mental library of past experience, successes and failures, to pull from.

Most times when we go to our friends and family for advice it’s for something they have little or no experience in
(and secretly we know that).

Deep down we either want them to make us feel all warm and fuzzy about the plans we’re making. We want their approval.

The flip side of that is when we ask those closest to us what they think of our plans and they shoot more holes in them
than a slice of swiss cheese, we abandon our plans.

We’ve now justified in our own heads all the reasons why this new thing won’t work.
We abandon our plans because of the opinions of folks who can’t even remember the last time they tried something new.

And we choose to stay small.

How sad.

The moral of the story? Only seek advice, real advice from those who have been where you want to go.
Then…and here’s the most important part…DO IT!

Advice or approval…success or mediocrity? The choice is up to you.

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2 Responses

  1. Robert Seth says:

    Wow Beth,

    Honestly I never thought about this in this way! It explains a lot. Thanks for this insight. I’m really looking forward to checking out your other articles!

  2. Beth says:

    You’re welcome, Robert. It’s crazy how we (I’m talking to me here, too 🙂 ) can equate seeking out sound advice for really just wanting someone to tell us we’re doing a good job. Nothing really wrong with getting either one, it’s just recognizing the true motives behind it and then moving forward from there.

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