Are you Listening To the Voices In your Head?
Well? Are you?
You know the one's I mean. It's the little whisper that say's "Why even bother trying that new business. You failed at the last one. What makes you think now will be any different?" or "Are you sure you want to try that? What if you mess up? Everyone will laugh at you"
You've heard it at least once or twice right?
Did it let it stop you? No? Good…
Because for quite a while I let it stop me. Until now…
This is how I finally (yes, I can be a little dense sometimes) caught on and how God taught me a lesson on how to tune it out.
God has such a great sense of humor…Let me explain what I mean.
A few days ago, I had a coaching call with one of my mentors. His name is PJ McClure and he's known as the Mindset Maven. He's a master at cutting through BS to get to the root of a problem and let me tell you my roots ran deep.
See, ever since I got down-sized four years ago, I've made many (and I do mean many) attempts at starting businesses. I'd start 'em, be going great guns and then I'd come to a screeching halt. Dead stop…stuck.
I always had my Real Estate business to fall back on so we didn't starve, but even that wasn't going so well. SO last year I decided to invest in some coaching, heavy duty business coaching and with it came the mindset coaching. Best thing I've ever done for my business. All I can say is Wow!!
Now comes the God's sense of humor part…
The day after a call with PJ came a breakthrough of ginormous proportions. I was taking a goal-setting workshop and by no small
coincidence I was sitting next to a lady who was very sweet, but also very "different" if you get my drift.
As good business people do, we introduced ourselves and I made the mistake of asking "what do you do?" She began at that point to tell me all about this weight loss product she sold that she'd lost 40 pounds on and that it was hard to get used to the taste at first but she got used to it and here's the brochure and here's her card and oh, by the way she also has a biofeedback machine at home to eliminate stress and she needed people to "practice" on so would I come over to her house so she could get the credits toward her certification and…Lordy!
I kept asking myself "what, does she think I'm fat?" Why they heck does she keep rambling on about this stuff. Does she know what she can do with those protein bars? Oooops…was I really thinking that?
Why was I getting so annoyed? At last, the class started.
And the real fun began…
Ever sit near someone who has a comment to say about EVERYTHING the instructor says? Ever sit right next to someone who talks to themselves for no good reason? And when they read, it's out loud in a hushed mumble WHILE the instructor is talking.
Let me tell ya, after about half an hour of that I was ready to come unglued. I've got zero tolerance for someone disrupting a class and especially one I paid good money to go to.
It was right about then I could almost see God smile. Then He whispered, "Tune out the voice and focus".
My classmate kept mumbling and I'd get aggrevated then I'd hear "Tune out the voice and focus".
Sometimes I'm a little slow on the up-take, but this time I got it. One of those ah-ha moments you hear about that stay with you for life.
It wasn't just my neighbor's voice I was being told to tune out, it was also the one I'd been listening to in my head. It was the one I'd let stop me so many times. The one that would always cast doubt or tell me I couldn't or why bother, it won't work anyway. THAT voice.
No, she didn't stop talking; but I was no longer listening. I really didn't hear her anymore. For the first time in a long time I was able to concentrate and really focus on the important things. The things I needed to take action on to move my business forward. And I learned that even though that voice may always be there, it's my choice to listen or not.
Next time your little voice of doubt or fear starts chattering, I hope you remember this story. It's always in your power to "tune out the
voice and focus".
Have you ever had an experience like that? A real ah-ha moment that changed the game forever? I'd love to hear your story. Please leave a comment below and share. Until then…
To Your Success,
Beth Heilman is a 20 year Real Estate veteran and Owner/CEO of Red Leopard Marketing, a company specializing in using Social Media Marketing (and some other nifty cool things, too) to help Real Estate Professionals attract, engage and keep their ideal customers. After experiencing the devastating effects the housing market crash had on her and her fellow Real Estate peeps, she has made it her mission to get businesses back on track using innovative marketing strategies with an emphasis on Social Media. Business as usual just doesn't work anymore.
Beth has lived in fabulous Las Vegas for 30 years. She's a mom of four great kiddos and a "gramita" to 10 amazing grandmunchkins. Her philosophy in business and in life is "when you do the right things for the right reasons, things will turn out just fine". Do you believe that? You should…