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Why Motivation Doesn’t Last

Posted on: February 10th, 2011 by Beth Heilman

This video by PJ McClure, The Mindset Maven is a great explanation of why external motivation doesn’t last. At least not for long. The only true motivation comes from inside you. Watch and enjoy (and be sure and leave your comments. I’d love to hear from you)

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How To Live A Whole Hearted Life

Posted on: December 16th, 2010 by Beth Heilman

Storyteller and researcher Dr. Brene Brown will make you laugh (and cry) as she tells about her research into what it takes to live a whole hearted life. After you watch it, be sure and leave a comment. This truly is a game changer.

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Motivation And Momentum: The Keys To Reaching your Goals

Posted on: December 10th, 2010 by Beth Heilman

One of the most difficult parts of goal achievement is simply getting started.  It’s easy enough to dream and plan, but many people get stuck in this phase indefinitely and avoid taking action.  Planning and dreaming might make you feel like you’re doing something about your goals, but if you never actually take a step forward you’ll never achieve them.  In order to see measurable progress, you have to step out of your comfort zones and take action.

Keep Moving Forward

When you finally do gather your courage and begin moving forward, what usually happens?  You realize it’s WAY harder than you thought it would be, right?  It feels like you’re trying to run uphill.  You keep tripping over obstacles, facing setbacks and delays, dealing with fear and anxiety, and fighting a daily battle to stay motivated.

It’s during this difficult phase that most people give up.  They decide that “it isn’t meant to be” right now, so they set their dream aside and vow to try again later.  Or worse, they resign themselves to a mediocre life because they don’t believe they have what it takes to succeed.  They’ve “failed,” so they’re not going to try any more.

Have you done this?  Most people have!

However, this doesn’t have to be the end of the story.  You can pick up your dreams, dust them off and try again.  But this time you should know about a little something called Momentum.

You see, the difficult phase I just described is what happens at the beginning when you’re trying to gain momentum.  Most people quit during this phase because they think it’s ALWAYS going to be this hard.  What they don’t realize is that every effort they put toward the achievement of their goals will build on the previous efforts.  With every step forward the process gets easier and easier.  Finally, they’ve put so much energy and effort into the process that momentum begins to take over.  Suddenly they realize that they don’t have to push so hard to keep moving forward.  It becomes fun . . . even easy to achieve their goal.

This same experience can be yours!  All you have to do is keep moving forward.  Keep working toward your dreams and never quit.  Momentum WILL take over eventually!

If you want to get momentum working even more quickly for you there are a few ways to do it, but they can be summed up in one sentence:

Be willing to work harder, faster and take bigger risks than you have in the past.

The reason why momentum can be delayed sometimes is because many people take very tentative steps toward their goals.  They’re afraid to really give it their all, so they hold back much of the energy and power they could be devoting toward their goal.  Even if they’re not aware of it, they may feel more comfortable working at a slower pace, so they avoid taking big risks and instead take baby steps.

There’s not a thing wrong with this approach if it suits you!  However, if you want to make faster progress and build momentum quickly, think about taking bigger steps and giving your full energy and focus toward making it happen.  By doing so, you’ll push through the difficult beginning and find yourself coasting before you know it.

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The Power of Becoming Vulnerable…Again

Posted on: December 8th, 2010 by Beth Heilman

Researcher Dr. Brene Brown speaks about the power of invulnerability and how it keeps us from living a whole-hearted life. Watch it. Enjoy it. And leave a comment below. Let’s discuss it 🙂

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_UoMXF73j0c&feature=related[/youtube]

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Motivation versus Hype (and How To Tell The Difference)

Posted on: September 12th, 2010 by Beth Heilman

For any of us who have ever attended a pep rally in school or heard a pumped up rah-rah speech, we know what it’s like to get the adrenaline rushing. For that moment in time, we feel like we could go out and conquer the world on sheer will power alone. To those who call that true motivation I say, “hold your horses”.

There is a difference between true motivation and hype. Let’s define the two.

What's The Carrot That Motivates You?

What Motivates You?

True motivation comes from deep down inside. It’s that “Why” we so often hear talked about in our businesses. It’s that driving force that keeps us going when it seems like all the cards are stacked against us. It’s the reason we keep doing what we’re doing even when it appears nothing is working because our intuition “knows” it’s gonna work.

True motivation is internal, hype is external (and doesn’t last very long).

Think back to the pep rally. Everyone’s cheering, everyone’s excited, but once the source of the excitement is gone (the cheerleaders, the game), things go back to the way they were. Nothing has changed. Hype cannot take on a life of it’s own because it’s well…hype.

My advice to you is to ask yourself some hard questions.

Why am I doing what I’m doing (build your own business, starting a new fitness routine, whatever)? Is it because you truly want to? Did someone else tell you it was a good idea and you didn’t want to hurt their feelings or look foolish? Is this something you really want to do long term (even when no one else is looking)? Are you doing it for your reasons or someone elses?

There are times we’ll do something for another person before we’ll do it for ourselves, and that’s fine. Starting your own business so you’ll have the money for your kids college fund is an awesome goal.  Working out three times a week to get healthy so you can play with the grandkids one day is fantastic, but the only one who can keep you motivated to stick with it day in and day out, is you.

Hype lasts for only a moment, true motivation carries you through and lasts a lifetime.

 

 

 

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