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When All Else Fails…Keep the Faith

Posted on: August 31st, 2011 by Beth Heilman

We've all had "those" days.

An unexpected bill and more month left than money, someone cut you off in traffic, a bad report from the doctor or an argument with someone you love…

Maybe you've had it all happen at once. I know I have.

For those times you feel like screaming "ENOUGH already!!"…

For those times where all you want to do is go back to bed, turn off the lights and hide from the world, there is one word that will get you through it all…FAITH.

I'm not talking the airy, fairy kind of faith where "everything is great and wonderful" even if your house happens to be burning down around you.

All the positive affirmations in the world aren't going to keep the flames at bay.

The Faith I'm talking about is the deep rooted, absolute knowing that no

matter how bad things may look right now, It WILL be alright.

That kind of Faith is a gift from God and it's yours for the taking. All you have to do is accept it and use it.

If you know any of my story, you know that I've faced some pretty big odds (fibromyalgia, a major job lay-off and bankruptcy to name just a few) and came through with my Faith intact.

There are those of you out there that have come through way worse than me and are such a beautiful example of what having Faith can do. You've had cancer and beat it like my sister, you've lost a job, lost your home, lost a loved one and came through it all even stronger than before. That's Faith in action, my friend and I applaud you for it.

How do you muster up that kind of Faith?

You ask for it. Rather, you ask God to show it to you because truly, it's already in you.

It may be small and it may seem hidden because of some setbacks and disappointments you've had, but it's there. You just have to call it to come forward.

I am a self-acknowledged "Faith Junkie" It's my remedy of choice when my world seems like it's ready to implode.

One of the biggest compliments my man, a self-proclaimed "realist" ever paid me (besides my butt looked really good in my black jeans 🙂 ) was when I was really struggling with a tough situation, but told him I knew it would all work out. He looked me right in the eyes and said "you really have faith, don't you?" "Yes…I do", I told him. He paused for a minute, smiled and said "that's good. Keep it up". I did…and still do.

Don't know how to operate any other way.

And yes, that situation did work out. Because I took the action that needed taken and had the Faith that it would work.

Sometimes we're afraid to "let go and let God" because we've been "let down" so many times in the past. I understand that.

You can't change the past, but you can impact your future by learning from what has been. Those are your life lessons (even though sometimes we wish we could've dropped that class a little earlier).

Where ever you are in your life right now, no matter what you're facing; when you have the Faith you'll make it, you will. Sometimes the results won't be what you expected. Who knows?…Maybe they'll be better!

Keep the Faith, my friends…and MAKE it a wonderful day.

As always, please leave a comment and let me know how you're doing and a time when calling on your Faith has helped you.

 

 

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The Way To Overcome Resistance Is With Action

Posted on: August 30th, 2011 by Beth Heilman

Ever get something in your head that you just KNEW you were supposed to do?

It could be losing weight…or moving to a new location…or starting a new business (one of my personal favorites 🙂 )

The excitement builds, all the pieces are in place. You may even have your friends and family on board ready to cheer you on in this next exciting step in your life and all of a sudden…WHAM!!

You stop dead in your tracks. Suddenly all the motivation is gone. Even doing the laundry and cleaning the cat box sound like more fun than following through on your new plan.

It's the killer of dreams and the squasher of all things even remotely looking like personal growth or forward movement in your life.

The one sure-fire way to tell if the thing you're wanting to do is really what you're supposed to be doing is when Resistance starts
rearing it's ugly head.

How do you overcome Resistance? Take ACTION.

Do what it is you need to be doing whether you feel like it or not. And whether you're scared to or not. This exposes Resistance for what it really is.

You see, Resistance likes the status quo. It wants you to stay safe and small. The moment you make a decision and start moving forward in your life, good ol' resistance will start following you like a shadow.

You'll procrastinate, you'll rationalize. In it's strongest form, you may even get depressed or sick.

There's a fantastic book called "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield that goes into wonderful detail how resistance in all it's forms, shows up and tries to keep you stuck. I highly recommend it to anyone who knows they've been called to greater things, but just can't seem to "get it in gear".

It doesn't matter a step you take, but do something that will move you closer to where you want to be…whatever that is for you. Take action today.

If you're feeling stuck right now, but know in your heart of hearts you've been called to do bigger things and play a bigger game, I
encourage you to get "The War of Art".  

It will be a game changer for you…it was for me.

Remember one thing about taking action when you're feeling resistance.

It's kind of like turning the light on in a dark room. The room seems spooky and unfamiliar until you flip the switch then…POOF!

Now you can step into that room because you can see. No more fumbling around (procrastinating and avoiding) because you know what's in front of you and what to walk around.

Action is your light switch…flip it today.

Leave a comment below and let me know how YOU overcome resistance. Love to hear from you 🙂
 

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When Opportunity Knocks, How Will You Answer?

Posted on: August 25th, 2011 by Beth Heilman

Sometimes it's feast or famine

There have been times in my life when I've been searching frantically for a job or a business venture and the pool of available opportunities was drier than Death Valley in August. And then, there were times when things were coming at me so fast and furious, I had a hard time deciding WHICH opportunity to take.

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Ever been in that spot?

How do you know which opportunity or choice is the right one?

Here's a great way to decide.

Recently I finished a 6-part class given by David Neagle called the Miracle of Money. It was an amazing experience. In the class we learned, among other things, that when you set a goal for something (and in the class, it was a money goal) the opportunity to create the money and realize the goal will present itself. (Sidebar: there's more detail than I can go into for now, but suffice it to say things really do show up)

When we'd set goals for the amounts of money we wanted, believe me no one had a clue as to how we were going to get it. Then,as the opportunities started showing up, I and a bunch of other people in the class had a hard time making a choice as to which direction to take.

David gave us four questions that helped us, and now you, figure out the right path to follow. Here are the four very simple questions to ask yourself that make a world of difference:

1) Is this opportunity something I want to be, do or have? If it isn't, no need to go any further. You've got your answer. If you know deep down this thing isn't for you, don't do it. After a while you'll be frustrated at best and miserable at worst. Now, if it's something you're totally jazzed about, on to question #2.

2) Is being, doing or having this taking me closer to my goal?

3) Is being, doing or having this in alignment with Universal (God's) Law (more life to all and less to none)?

4) Does being, doing or having this violate the rights of others (does it take away someone else’s right to choose)? The answers you want are yeses to the first three questions and no to the fourth. Stepping on another persons rights will always bite the stepper in the behind in the long run.

These four questions are so simple, but so powerful. The next time you're faced with a big decision and feeling stuck, go through the questions. You already have the right answers inside of you. These questions will help you find them.

I'd love to hear what you think about this. Leave a comment below and let's talk.

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No Matter How Things May Look…There Is Always A Way

Posted on: August 18th, 2011 by Beth Heilman

I've collected Tiggers for years. You know who I'm talking about, don't you? That adorable orange and black-striped, child-like sidekick of the timeless character, Winnie The Pooh.

Over the last couple decades I've been given stuffed Tiggers, Tigger coffee mugs, Tigger shirts, Tigger PJ's, Tigger Christmas ornaments…You name it, I've got the Tigger for it.

Why Tigger? Because he's the eternal optomist. No matter what's going on around him, no matter what others are saying, no matter whether it's a "blustery day" or some other such negative happenstance, Tigger believes things will always just fine. Tiggers Bounce Back… 🙂

Are you a Tigger…or are you (oh, bother) an Eeyore?

It's so easy to get sucked in to all the negativity from the news, from friends and from family. Some people only feel normal when they're miserable. There are people who are perfectly content to stay where they are in life and there are people who, no matter what crisis or setback happens to them, they bounce back. They're Tiggers

TIggers believe there's always a way. Each one of us, everyday has a choice to either react to the doom and gloom "out there" or respond by rising above it and decide to succeed in spite of it.

I'll ask you again…are you a Tigger or an Eeyore? I'm hoping you'll join me and my Tiggers. We bounce back 🙂

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Why Motivation Doesn’t Last

Posted on: February 10th, 2011 by Beth Heilman

This video by PJ McClure, The Mindset Maven is a great explanation of why external motivation doesn’t last. At least not for long. The only true motivation comes from inside you. Watch and enjoy (and be sure and leave your comments. I’d love to hear from you)

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